Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have…

Bishop Kieran

A leading Catholic Bishop announced his resignation today after confessing to being “unfaithful” to his vows, leading to speculation he has had a sexual affair.

The Rt Rev Kieran Conry, the bishop of Arundel and Brighton and chairman of the Church’s evangelisation committee in England and Wales, was to make the shock announcement in a letter read to congregations across the diocese at services over the weekend.

It immediately led to speculation that Bishop Conry had broken his vow of celibacy.

In the statement, being read to congregations on Saturday evening and Sunday morning the Bishop apologised for being “unfaithful to my promises as a Catholic priest”.

Bishop Conry is known as a leading liberal and moderniser in the church.


Social media has of course gone ballistic with the usual negative, humiliating, blaming, hurtful and downright nasty comments. This is to be expected i suppose, but the thing that really disturbed me is that these comments are from catholics – mainly orthodox catholics. Im not going to post any of those kind of comments here.

What i will post is this:

“People don’t necessarily realise how hard it is to live the life of a priest. To be alone. To be a part of every family and yet be a part on none. To face the traumas of life in so many ways and carry the burden alone. Only with the power of the love and divine mercy of Christ can we succeed. Some fall and need our support more than our condemnation. Our prayers more than our barbs. Our mercy more than disgust. This high-priest needs prayers. All priests need prayers. My JESUS mercy – MARY help.”

Have you never fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have? Do you not know what that feels like? It’s like having the flesh ripped off of your bones.

The mistake Bishop Kieran made was to try to have it all. If he wanted to be with this person then he should have resigned long ago. There would have been no shame in that. To carry on as Bishop in a dishonest way was a mistake.

“I can empathise to a point, but I’m happy, happy he won’t be living a lie any more, we won’t have to pretend we didn’t know about it, and that he won’t be peddling his half-baked brand of Catholicism any more.”

It is right that he has resigned, the truth has finally won. Everything he campaigned for, right or wrong, will forever sit in the light of his disgrace.  I didn’t agree with many of Bishop Kieran’s views. I can understand better now what was influencing his decisions. but i will NOT sit here and condemn the man. I am a Christian, and a sinner. To gloat in the face of a sorrowful sinner is a disgusting thing to do. This does not mean i am ignoring his sin, it’s just that right now he needs compassion and charity. Christ died for his sins too. He is a person, and i am choosing to see the person first – before the sin…

“The legal experts and Pharisees brought a woman caught in adultery. Placing her in the centre of the group, they said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of committing adultery. In the Law, Moses commanded us to stone women like this. What do you say?”  They said this to test him, because they wanted a reason to bring an accusation against him. Jesus bent down and wrote on the ground with his finger. They continued to question him, so he stood up and replied:

“Whoever hasn’t sinned should throw the first stone.”  

Bending down again, he wrote on the ground. Those who heard him went away, one by one, beginning with the elders. Finally, only Jesus and the woman were left in the middle of the crowd.

Jesus stood up and said to her, “Woman, where are they? Is there no one to condemn you?” 

She said, “No one, sir.”

Jesus said, “Neither do I condemn you. Go, and from now on, don’t sin anymore.” John 8: 3-11


Sources – http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/religion/11125717/Bishop-of-Arundel-resigns-after-admitting-breach-of-vows.html

5 thoughts on “Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn’t have…

  1. My dad says: “Forgiveness races towards repentance at God’s speed”……. I think this is particularly appropriate now… We as the Church, should be praying and fasting for our priests if possible…. They are not superhuman, despite all the graces they have been given by the Lord, and they fall just as we all do….. I am so thankful that he has come forward and been honest about it because that takes a huge amount of courage….. I pray for all those that he has hurt but also for him…. Thankfully, God’s mercy is infinite and bearing in mind the Gospel readings tomorrow (Ezekiel 18:25-28; Phillipians 2:1-11; Matthew21:28-32), this was obviously in God’s mighty and merciful hands…..

  2. You mention someone… Which of the two women are you referring to? Or are we talking about the woman mentioned in Christian Order Jan 2002?

    I think we should also be praying for these women…

    As for courage, interestingly +Conry resigned a few hours before the Mail on Sunday went on sale!

  3. We need to pray for and support our priests, absolutely, but they should also receive correction in appropriate ways when necessary to minimize the damage done by their mistakes. When mortal sin is committed, the sinner is blinded by it. Knowing this, faithful priests should step in to help, as well as any faithful disciple of Jesus Christ. We as the church, need to be loving, gentle AND strong. We need to acknowledge that there’s a battle going on and engage the enemy wherever we see him, and whatever form he may take. The message that is sent to all should be loud and clear “love is NOT the tolerance of sin”, for love is an effort to support the repentant, not the protection of the unrepentant. It’s really simple, and yet critical that those in positions as leaders in the church, be constantly supported and also corrected when necessary. Jesus said “My sheep know my voice”. Those who are obviously in error must not be allowed to mislead their flocks for generations!!! God please help us!

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